To Katherine

20ish girl with brown shoulder-length hair in a green tank top and gray sweater
my goddaughter, Katherine

I marvel at all that you are,
all that you are becoming,
as you go thru heartbreak
with a kindness that shouldn’t be possible
and a refusal to give up on life
as tempting as it seems:

You see the world
with hope and fear
intermingled

Taking it on
thru pain and anxiety
interferring

You face your pain
with grace under pressure
despite all

Trudging onward
thru so much loss
despite her

Your huge heart
stitched together with hope
uncertain yet undeterred

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Katherine remained true to herself and has since found a someone who understands what love is, thereby understanding my Katherine. They seem marvelous and I look forward to meeting this singular proof that life not only goes on but improves.

To the New Year

Sunrise with sun rays shooting up from behind tree silhouettes

With each daybreak
a new start
cutting thru the darkness

With each small step
another milestone
creating yet more options

With every ending
a new beginning
turning failure into learning

With every effort
another goal faced
tending to our dreams

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Sunrise via pixnio

A Shadow Soul

'A house is not a home without a pet.' alongside a tortoiseshell cat
They don’t care who you are.
They don’t care what you do.
They don’t care where you live.
Pets just care that you’re there.
❥ A pet becomes a home’s visible soul.

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“I love cats because I enjoy my home; and little by little, they become its visible soul.” — Jean Cocteau

Everyone Matters

I_AM

creative spoonie,
dependent rebel,
impaired poet,
optimistic realist,
so much more,
sometimes less;
I AM human, as are you:
Everyone Matters 💜 & ☕️

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“The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.”
— Aristotle

“‘Everyone Matters’ is about everybody’s value, that we all count, that we should all stand tall for who we are, as we are,” the campaign founder HealthCliff Rothman told The Huffington Post in an email. “It’s about judging each other, and ourselves less.”

All The Best

birthday cake decorated with artist implements
“Bon Anniversaire, Ma Mère”

An ability to see beyond the pale,
Recognizing hope in the shadows,
Trusting first and foremost in love;
Questioning allows for discovery –
An independent view of the world,
Finding wonder in unlikely nooks,
Taking refuge in discovered beauty;
Aesthetic purpose is proven worthy.

Not simply to be sought but created,
Via means personal and miraculous,
Through more than possible alone;
More than creation from only within –
Not just given but allowed in as well,
Born both of intention and request,
Granted as journey and destination;
Nothing but children can encompass.

The innate art in all that is organic,
Exists as fact as well as fulfillment,
Internal naïveté becomes a choice;
With childlike wonder thus achieved –
The need to be and have a child met,
So an inherent wisdom is imparted,
For beauty infuses all said and seen;
Thus self-doubt may stand idly by.

All hesitance is ever more in check,
Seeking truth rather than reasons,
Knowing order exists despite chaos;
Choosing inspiration over defeat –
All is perceived with a loving heart,
Becoming more complete every day,
Fostering creations formed and found;
Artistry that goes beyond the page.

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She’s described me as her alter-ego and she’s my inner compass; we’ve never had it easy but we’ve always had each other. Her love is not only unconditional but unwavering, and her acceptance is as complete as it is encouraging. With bravery summoned in shared nooks, and hope conjured from their many books, it was the two of us “against the world” and we’re still at it – finding our truest selves together. Persistent artist; consistent friend; insistent creative; her inherent appreciation of artistry in all its forms keeps me inspired and forever young:

“It takes time to grow young.”
— Pablo Picasso

“She finds happiness in whatever happiness I meet, she understands what I understand and why I understand it, she prays for me even when I pray for no one but myself, she sees all the beauty I tell her I see and delights in it through my eyes. That is my mother. She would give me the whole world if she could gather it in her arms. That is why she will never have the whole world in her arms; that is why she will always have the whole of my love.” — Philippos Aristotelous


All The Best (alles gute) by Ari Baker on deviantART

The Dorey Constant

DoreySignThe sign outside my grandparents’ home

I was your little shadow

Before reaching equity with Momma
Or recognizing my soul in Grandma
There was you

What could’ve been treated as tagging along
Used instead as a chance for me to belong
There with you

Anything done had fun to be found within
Nothing was mundane, especially when
There were two

You were my first best friend

Tasks as games, errands became adventures
Logic as puzzles, bedtime stories offered cures
Walks as archaeology, flies were fishing lures

I was your little brown eyes

Leaving me no doubt I was exceptional
While ensuring everyone felt special
That was you

Peacemaker who took everything in stride
Supportive, and confident without pride
That is you

Finding hope with a quiet determination
Knowing letting go may be the solution
That’s me too

You were my universal constant

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Being able to say “me too” when it comes to my grandparents reassures me that I’m part and parcel of their living legacy. Those two simple words keep me connected to them, and specifically remind me that Granddad loved “me too.” That deceptively simple phrase was how he responded to “I love you” when one of his girls called him at work. Although he was clearly just keeping things professional, there was a sense that he felt too deeply to risk getting personal. He warned me any time I cried that, if I continued, he’d join me. Seeing me cry was enough to make him cry, and not saying “love” at the office hinted at the real possibility his voice might crack if he let himself say it. He laid the foundation for the most important lesson Grandma taught me, that our choices also affect those who love us. My Granddad was the first father I ever knew, and the best man I could ever hope to know. He exemplified what it was to be a good man yet not by being a man’s man – veteran, engineer, and mountaineer that he was – but by being unabashedly accepting, caring, and creative. Don Dorey proved that real strength comes from within.

As a tomboy and his namesake, my connection to Granddad was strong. When talking to himself (which the best people do), he called himself Dorey and my nickname was Dori so those private dialogs always seemed to include me. We’d take on challenges together and “Get it right, Dorey” or answer the tough questions like “What’re you doing, Dorey?” Grandma was concerned I’d take it personally when he was frustrated too but I’d seen him sign his name, “GD Dorey,” often enough that it was clear who he meant when he swore to himself: “Goddamn Dorey.” Rather than teach me conceptual lessons of right and wrong, Granddad shared more relatable truths; cussing is a privilege earned with age, lying is only for Liar’s Dice, gambling is reserved for Solitaire, drinking is intended for meals or Sock It To Me Time and, like most things, is more enjoyable in moderation. With him, I learned a deeper appreciation for those around me. While Momma inspired me and Grandma reflected me, Granddad gave me a sense of place. As a Dorey, his Dori, I not only belonged but could share that feeling through the ready acceptance of others he personified. Without him, I’m disconnected from a universe he gave meaning to.

In memory of G[eorge]D[onald] Dorey, my G[od]D[amn] Granddad:
Don Dorey, you are missed and we are better for knowing you.
October 1919 – July 2014

 

My Declaration

My Declaration of Self-esteem by Virginia Satir

No one adds up exactly like me:
Everything that is me is authentic because I alone choose it; What I say, do, think, & feel at a given moment is authentic & represents where I am at that moment in time.

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